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Probably because she lets you be the man, i.e., she probably follows your lead, and doesn’t tell you what to do. She also sounds like she’s easy to be with.

You are probably the kind of man whose actions match his words. You never gave her a reason to doubt your affection and commitment.

This is how it works, and to accept less is a serious mistake leading to a very unhappy marriage.

I’m glad you found your special wife. Congratulations! :-)

Probably because she lets you be the man, i.e., she probably follows your lead, and doesn’t tell you what to do. She also sounds like she’s easy to be with.

Well, yes. I'm the wage-earner and she stays home with our infant son. But there's a great deal of mutual respect. She implores me to mind my language, not drink too much, go to church on Sunday and generally has made me a better person. On the weekends, I'll help her clean and take care of the baby. It's much the way I was raised so it's an arrangement that I'm familiar with. She has a husband who comes home after work, isn't angry, bitter or violent and hasn't squandered the day's wages at the pub each evening, which is what she'd likely have if she stayed in Ukraine.

You never gave her a reason to doubt your affection and commitment.

Never. And she's never given me reason to doubt her commitment as well. Having a relationship without mind games is wonderful, healthy thing. My wife is everything to me and I don't know what I'd do without her. I know I'd definitely be a lesser man.

I’m glad you found your special wife. Congratulations! :-)

Thank you. I'm happy. She's happy. Our son is happy. Everything is well.

Of course, there's still a stigma associated with American men who marry foreigners as somehow losers who can't attract an American girl and the wives they marry are nothing but opportunists looking for a ticket out of the misery they live in. This is fed by the all-too-common image in the media of the paunchy, balding 50-something American man and his nubile Russian party-girl bride, barely out of her teens, who was basically 'purchased" to be a sex-slave that cooks and cleans. I cringe and roll my eyes when I see this portrayed as the typical arrangement and dearly hope it's not.