RochesterFan, I think you missed my point, which I likely didn't clearly explain. I question the CIA's decision to send a "mother of three" (read woman) to lead a CIA team in a war zone. Unlike fathers, mothers tend to worry more about their children, and perhaps they worry more when they're far away from home. Was she the toughest and most qualified member of the agency? IMO, some jobs are best left to men, and this was one of those jobs.
No, I did understand your point. The problem is that this is the necessary consequence of “equal opportunity.” She had to take her chances like any other employee of the CIA. In a free society, she got to make that decision for herself - and accept the consequences for her family. She could have chosen another career path. What gives others the standing to make that choice for her?