All I have to say to the birth mother is — you experimented with a deviant lifestyle and probably even thought you were fortunate to be living in the state of Vermont where such a lifestyle is celebrated. But when truth (nature) catches up with you, your “progressive” politicians will side with deviancy. Then what are you doing to do ?
Her bad decisions (and horrendous they were) in her past is beside the point. The child has shown distress at having to visit the “other mom” - hence the reason the visits were stopped.