Want to lose whatever illusions you might have concerning the Middle East, Arabs, Muslims and Islam? -- Come to the Middle East and spend 8-10 hours a day for at least a year, working and living with hundreds of Arab and non-Arab Muslims.
Good fences make good neighbors.
Many of the worlds Muslims, including Pakistanis Afghanis, Indonesians, Nigerians, Somalis, and so on, don't live in the Middle East or speak Arabic. The links I provided in my earlier reply were by people opposed to Islam and include ex-Muslims and it's there assessment that large numbers of Muslims don't really know the Koran. Not discounting your experiences out of hand, however, what was the context in which you were talking to these people about Islam? (You don't have too specific but having been overseas I know that such conversations can range from the casual to in-depth and I'm curious about the breadth and depth of the conversations you've had.)
Want to lose whatever illusions you might have concerning the Middle East, Arabs, Muslims and Islam? -- Come to the Middle East and spend 8-10 hours a day for at least a year, working and living with hundreds of Arab and non-Arab Muslims
Earlier in the thread, I discussed the legitimacy of cultural filters for immigration and I think it's a good idea, at least in theory. Having known quite Westernized Muslims (as well as non-Muslims from the Middle East) and having lived in and done work in Asia and seen the difference in cultures there, how much of that is the regional culture and how much if it is the religion? In my experience, for example, Persians who left Iran before or during the Shah's reign seem to have a very different attitude than Arabic people, almost regardless of religion, and remember that before the PLO moved in, even Lebanon was not such a bad place to be because of the European cultural influences.