I know tons of RC. Family, classmates, etc.
The point is you all rationalize that somehow
what you are doing is not what you are doing.
Like you just did !
No, the Catholics you know may “rationalize”.
Parish shopping is not a big giant secret. Tell your friends to come out of the darkness. No one cares at all if they seek a parish that is more fitting to their needs.
Catholics do it all the time and Most Catholics agree with it as well.