Your outlook betrays a weak faith and it is truly sad to watch. For millenia, Catholics and other mainstream denominations have been known to be Christian by everyone. Then, some group of doubting Christians, without the firmament of faith, sought to cling instead to the literal word of the bible. Without the comfort of the literal word, their faith would vanish. Allegorical verse in the bible to them became the requirement to be “born again”, literally. To them, they are the only true Christians.
They are wrong.
You are wrong.
Your faith is weak.
So when Jesus said that we must be born again, He really didn't mean it? And how did you determine that Jesus didn't mean what He said?