You will never overcome a public school system that includes before and after school day care, not for single moms and struggling families, but in CA, where public education is often as bad as it gets, even in upper middle class neighborhoods, many former stay at home moms work just to send their kids to private schools. I know one man that served in the Naval Air Reserve for twenty years and used the money to send his five kids to Catholic schools. People are waking up to what is going on, but it is far too slowly. I just wish that I had taken a more active role in the education of my kids. I knew what was happening, but didn’t know what to do about it, except complain.
Morally we are correct, but you'll not pry middle-class entitlements easily out of the hands of those recipients. They are between a rock and a hard place.
Practical conservative politics requires steps to implement goals. The way out is not revolution, but evolution away from socialism. It has to work and it has to make sense to the average American. We'll need their support to succeed.
We don't want to overreach like Obama has. Hubris is an enemy.