As I said up thread, my kids started doing their own laudry at about 8-14. That was about the time that a couple of them started whining about not having their favorite garment washed just when they wanted it. I took them to the machine, showed them the soap and the buttons and gave up that job forever. They were required to find a sibling with similar colored clothes that needed washing and combine loads, if they didn’t have a full load.
They had already been folding clean wash from kindergarten on. They used to sit on the floor watching Sesame Street and folding their clothes.
Didn’t hurt them a bit, and none of them suffered the humiliation of *pink* underwear their first year in college.
BTW, my oldest son accused my husband and me of *spoiling* them after he got out of college. This was when he was looking to buy his first house and found out how expensive they were! I had a good laugh over that!
I tell mine they’ll have to go to the laundromat if they want GarmentX before I get to it. I *know* they’ve got drawers full of clothes, anyway!
I don’t put their clothes away, although I do my husband’s. I sort them into piles by room and leave heaps by the doors!