“Why would any of this be an issue if the father didn’t want to be involved in his child’s life. The courts would not even be involved.”
Because some fathers are controlling and obstructionist just to get back at the mother. Having just gotten out of a longterm abusive marriage, where the father of my child refused visitation for months and then suddenly started forcing the issue upon a child who wasn’t willing, I can tell you that not all men care about their kids as much as they care about punishing the child’s mother.
Are there good dads out there who are getting screwed? sure there are... but there are just as many moms who are getting bullied by the other side. Unless the child is clearly unhappy, doing poorly with her studies, or clearly abused, the courts need to stay out of her life altogether.
I'm very sorry to hear of the ordeal you and your child are going through. I pray in time things work out.
Unless the child is clearly unhappy, doing poorly with her studies, or clearly abused, the courts need to stay out of her life altogether.
The problem is in this case the parents brought the court into it. In a better world, they would have sat down and tried to work out what's in the child's best interest.