I think you're being way too anal about the whole thing. Your attitude reminds me of a funny "Far Side" cartoon I saw many years ago. There are two frames in the cartoon. The first frame shows an Indian village, where a drummer holding a big drumstick has been beating loudly on a huge drum, so hard, in fact, that there's now a huge hole in one side of the instrument. The other frame shows a circled group of covered wagons, with an anxious, frightened group of people gathered round their leader, who says, "Don't worry folks ... they only attack to the sound of the drums!"
Not “anal”. Just asking questions like everyone else here. It simply makes no sense to me that two people would travel to a 3rd country, not either of their home countries, to have their child. If you think that’s perfectly understandable, fine. I don’t.