How do you explain the certain percentage of gay men who come from a large family, are like a middle a child and as far as all the other family members can remember from 2 years old till 18 were just “Naturally Nelly”????
I am not saying there is a number of GLBT folks who are sexually Di-Orientated. But there is a number of gay folk who are just naturally Nelly.
I grew up with some kids that could be described “Naturally Nelly” who came from big families in which everyone else was Straight as an Arrow, but they were “Fabulous” from K-12 or as long as I knew them. When those people came out it is like “Well, gee, everyone already knows you are as queer as a three dollar bill so who cares...”.
I would explain a “naturally Nelly” the same way I would explain a problem/criminal child or mentally ill kid coming from a normal or “good” family. Some kids are just born with a predisposition towards mental illness or emotional problems and it can manifest itself in any number of ways from criminal actions, homosexuality, emotional issues, acting out, etc.
That's a good question. One possible explanation: the boy was born with a high estrogen level, making him seem effeminate compared to his siblings. This apparent effeminacy caused him to be attractive to a certain type of gay pedophile, who then inflicted the sexual trauma that led to the boy becoming attracted to men; at that point, people around him said that it was “inevitable” or that they always knew he was gay, but it wasn't his fate, it was inflicted upon him.