You also can’t make people “care” or “like” you. You really can’t, even if you weren’t a nosy busybody worried about inflicting your will on others.
Still real simple, if you like codes and restrictions live in an HOA neighborhood, every body knows the rules moving in. But if you buy in a neighborhood without an HOA, don’t bitch about what the neighbor does. Again, real simple.
They give ignorant answers such as, "If you don't like your neighbor, buy him out." What if he won't sell? What if you are a little old lady who can't afford it?
They tend to not be able to see such things and get mad when you point them out. They know they are wrong, but can't admit it.
So, since they don't know how to engage in a civil argument to find out what we each think about question, they engage in anger and name calling. They tell you you are stupid for living in a city, they tell you to buy all the property around you, they tell you the laws are made to enrich the city, etc.
They are not good at reasonable "what ifs." They tell you you are scary and say they don't know what is happening to FR lately.
Well, we pay out dues and if they don't like it, they can buy us out, have us banned, move away, or send the cops after us.
It cuts both ways.