Just don’t hold her out as Saint Bristol. If this were anyone else you all would be besides yourself with moral indignity. Just as you are with the father of her child.
No one here is calling her a saint. People are acknowledging she made a mistake and is now trying to learn from it bny helping others not make the same one. You are doing tons of projecting here. And you sound a little ‘off’ too. Perhaps decaf will help.