The thing is, none of those things go away after becoming a parent. You just adjust to a new schedule. Seems to me he wasn’t willing to assume the role of head of his house, and defaulted authority to his wife. Instead of working WITH her, he caved in.
Shoot, we’d get babysitters so we can still have a dinner & movie night once in a while. We take turns with the kids so the other one can have some ‘alone’ time. Divide and conquer, you know?
“Seems to me he wasn’t willing to assume the role of head of his house, and defaulted authority to his wife.”
And that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She sees what a whimp he is and decides that “somebody” has to take care of business afterall.
So she eventually grows up because she was forced to take sole responsibility.
After awhile she is the natural leader and he is wondering exactly how it happened and gets angry about it.