Your wife really has things backwards. IKEA makes overpriced junk out of fiberboard. It may temporarily look attractive, but has no lasting value and will deteriorate with time.
But if you buy used furniture (and there’s lots of good stuff available, especially now) it will last for centuries. Refinish it and it looks new. Buy the right styles and they’ll never be out of fashion or look dated. Wooden furniture that’s not made of good mahogany, cherry, or walnut can be painted. One strong piece can make a room. Some of these things can be passed on to descendants when you are old, or resold.
You and your wife should consult some good shelter magazines for ideas. It just takes taste and imagination.
You are definitely starting to convince me. Right now we are lucking for a sofa set. Perhaps that’s why she’s saying used furniture is “gross.” You know what’s funny, one of her favorite television programs is the Antiques RoadShow!
Remember, IKEA sells different lines, and even within a line they will use different materials for different parts (hardwood visible surfaces, paperboard backs) and that sort of thing.
My kitchen is 100% solid European white oak cabinet fronts from IKEA. The floor is 100% solid bamboo.
I even have a couple of Poang chairs in the living room.
Ever sit in a Poang?
Once bought a Billy bookcase. Had to trim 2 inches off each shelf to fit it into a "place". The shelves were made of pressed aromatic cedar ~ just absolutely incredible when I cut into them. Didn't paint the ends over so if you want to snif them, it's still OK.
“Some of these things can be passed on to descendants when you are old, or resold.”
How much am I bid for a 68 year-old curmudgeon in need of a good, loving home and lots of beer?