"Reaching out" and "changing to attract" are two ways of saying the same thing.
No, they're not. Look at what he said above--there is nothing different there from things Sarah Palin and Ronald Reagan have said.
Palin on support from women's groups:
"I would love to have their support, but I’m not going to change my positions in order to try to woo them over. Don’t have time to do that."
That is my position. What is wrong with that?