I was talking about those who are already pregnant, in the context of encouraging them not to have an abortion. When working with pregnant women, who are contemplating abortion, it is rarely effective to tell them they should not have gotten pregnant to begin with.
I do agree with that. Once they are pregnant you have to deal with that. However, we need to do far more as a society in encouraging women to NOT have sex with men who they would not want to be married to and have children with. And we need to stop this nonsense that sex and marriage and children are not connected.