Sorry Scotswife, I didn’t mean at all to make it sound like I was deriding her.
In fact, I was trying to recognize the truth in this world, that women seek different things from their guy, than guys do from their woman. He lost his job - from what you’re saying he was already wrapped pretty tight, and from his actions that’s obvious in hindsight.
But the point my comment was (attempting) to recognize is when a guy lets himself dissolve, that can take away from him the help of the one person who could prevent it.
Even the best women have limits.
Sorry if I seemed to be saying otherwise. :)
He lost his job after she had already filed.
As the details emerge, it appears he presented a false front to this woman, and she recently stumbled upon some sobering truth.
That can happen both directions between men and women.