“Maybe, but I have met gobs of married men that say they don’t get much. I take that as evidence of a lot of option 1 and hence the article being right on target for our society”
Of course you would, you’re a guy.
A woman would look at that same fact and take it as evidence that marriage makes many men complacent about putting in the time necessary to develop a good response.
>>Maybe, but I have met gobs of married men that say they don’t get much. I take that as evidence of a lot of option 1 and hence the article being right on target for our society.<<
You nailed it. I know a LOT of men in this predicament. Many of them are very attentive but our culture has corrupted their wives and their wives expectations.
I lived it myself for a long time: Be nice to her. Give footrubs, take out trash. Do dishes, etc. and maybe she will be attentive. It only gave her control as she continued to say no and that I didn’t measure up.
I learned, after a great deal of counseling and reading that I was not the problem. I must respect her, myself and the relationship and let the chips fall where they may. They fell to a divorce that completely blindsided me. In the long run I was done a tremendous favor.
I think most married men in this country are “wupped” and if they would just grow a spine they would either find their wife responding or she would dump them where they would then have the freedom to find the “right” woman. And after the free education they got they would have a much better chance of finding Miss Right.
Meanwhile all this gaggle of goose hens can grow old alone in their tiny cluttered apartment with their cat named fluffy. It is sad, because our culture did it to them but the courts prevent us men from stopping them.
So, there you are...