If it's just a pat, why does the person referenced in post 59 mention it makes an audible sound? I pat my kids on the cheek all the time, and I doubt somebody could hear it if they were sitting next to me.
And expecting spouses to be respectful to each other is "touchy feely?" That's funny, I thought that sort of thing was old-fashioned. As in, that's how my parents and grandparents did it.
I don’t know why the person posted that. I have watched the show consistently. They banter back and forth. That doesn’t mean they don’t respect one another.
There are plenty of tender and loving moments between them, but the show does concentrate on the whirlwind of having so many small children. In each show there is a segment filmed with them on a couch discussing the scenes that were in the show. Some of it is just fun and what I would call dry, sarcastic humor. It is obvious that Jon loves her and vice versa. I think everyone is being hypercritical. They are putting it all out there honestly and not pretending to be anything they are not.
(I'm one of the people who thinks Kate comes off as a shrew, but I'm sure my husband and I have given a bad impression a time or two ourselves.)