Maybe I'm a little overly sensitive because I've had to help friends and family deal with abusive relationships. I've found that what often appears like mutual understanding in a relationship is really just one partner submitting to mistreatment for the sake of the kids, or for fear of being alone, not wanting to cause a scene, etc.
But I don't know these people or what really goes on in their relationship. So like you suggested, I'll just choose to watch other things.
Thanks for your comments, but believe me, I know abusive relationships when I see them. I lived in a 20 year marriage that was abusive and Jon and Kate don’t come close to that description.
What is worrying me about this entire thread, not directing this at you, is how overly sensitive everyone is becoming these days. People have to be careful how much they are reading into situations. I think they have dry and slightly sarcastic humor towards each other and that it is being misread.