From what I understand, they would not be considered ‘married’ in anyone’s eyes, except maybe their own. We do not follow Judaism’s engagement rules. Even under Judaism if something happened they could get out of the marriage without dishonoring either person (if no sex took place). They would not be married in God’s eyes, because they had not stood up before God and everyone else and took their vows. No church would say they were married, because no pastor had performed any ceremony. No secular authority would recognize them as married, there is no valid marriage certificate.
As far as the birth control question goes, it’s a moot point, and I would say over the line to ask - definitely poor taste to start poking into such areas. At this point it’s a non issue.
>>definitely poor taste to start poking into such areas.<<
I wasn’t poking, I was asking.
A genuine question.
I’ll know better who to ask next time.