I know wonderful families that have adopted!!!! One of my friends from my old job, he and his wife have become foster parents to a number of special needs kids, and they have adopted a few of them. I have a lot of respect for them. They had natural children, but started being foster parents when their own children were grown. The mom homeschools the special needs kids.
It takes a lot of effort and commitment to adopt a child, so I think they are better prepared than most couples that have a natural pregnancy.
It’s really hard to give up a baby for adoption, but it is such a really non-selfish thing to do. I’ve told my daughters that if they ever got pregnant before they were married, then I would encourage them to put the baby up for adoption.
I so some work with an adoption group and so have met the most wonderful adoptive parents. And the kids (they are usually young, but not always) who adopt out their babies are the most clear-headed, unselfish people I have ever met. They desperately want to keep their babies (those who do not never come in to chose the adoptive parents, but they know there are couples far better prepared.
I am always floored by the attitudes against adoption. The hang ups with blood relationships, too. In the end, it doesn’t take a village to raise a child, it takes a couple.