We have something in common: My 1st born came to us with Tetralogy of Fallot. We went through hell. Your personal experience and mine have nothing to do with this thread.
I agree. I hesitated to include my experience, but decided to to address the 'you would feel differently if you had lost a child' claims. I was trying to illustrate which things I feel are deserving of sympathy and which I struggle to be sympathetic towards. If I could do it over, I would tell the story from the 3rd person perspective.