To be honest, I don’t really care that much about what she does with her life. Not everybody has to live like me or do what I do. I just don’t like having the middle American lifestyle pushed with near-totalitarian zeal.
So you’d be kewl with it if she were 12? Eight? Six?
If you agree we need to draw the line somewhere, then we don’t have a disagreement in principle, just in deciding where to draw a line. I think 14 is too young. She may not enjoy what you dismiss as “middle American lifestyle”, but I want her to have a chance to make a choice when she’s old enough to give informed consent.