Nowhere did I say that the kids should be punished for the deeds of their parents.
What I did say, is that a woman who is like the writer of this column is NOT marriage material, and any man who marries a woman like her is a fool. He is not entering the marriage as an equal. He is always second to her and this child.
Is it the fault of the child? No.
If you desire to live like that, you are certainly welcome to it. Having been married to such a woman, and knowing exactly where relationships like this fall apart, I advise anyone considering entering a marriage under these terms, to look elsewhere for a person who is not this selfish. Not just walk away, but run.
It is not encumbent on me to save this child from the poor choices of a selfish parent.
I may very well be low vermin, but I speak the truth. I say the things that used to be generally understood, but in this de-balled culture I have been accused of being judgemental. Yep, I am a judgemental SOB and damned proud of it. I do attach a stigma to such women. I do pass judgement on their choices, and I am not affraid to call a whore, a whore. I consider women like the writer to be repugnant and are to be looked down upon, pointed at and derided for her selfishness.
I too am selfish. In fact my selfishness has afforded me a wonderful wife, and children who are ours.
You have clearly come to a battle of wits, unarmed. The writer of this column, is your basic run of the mill ditz who expects her spouse to be a doormat to her whims. You obviously enjoy being walked on and want to live in constant fear.
It's amazing how many people think that a man looking for a good woman should do what's "fair" or what's socially responsible. Screw that. It's each man's responsibility to find a woman that is the best possible choice for HIM. Who will make HIM happy. This one time, when he is choosing his future wife, he needs to focus exclusively on his own needs and making sure they are satisfied.
Trust me, nobody else in the world, least of all a woman who is like this writer, is worrying about your needs or wants. So you should worry about your own.
And this is the last chance you'll get. Once you're actually married to a woman like this writer, you'll find that everything about marriage, legal, financial, and emotional, will be about HER and HER kid. Your needs will be dead last, or even more likely, not even recognized. You will be just a provider, a mechanic, or whatever type of worker bee a woman like the writer and HER child happen to require at the moment.
So, take this one chance, to make sure that the woman you are looking for satisfies YOUR needs and wants.
So forget about what's politically correct or socially responsible. Be selfish. That's the best thing you can do for yourself, and for your future wife.
Good luck Doormat...you're going to need it.
Here’s what you said....
“No self respecting man wants to provide for the progeny of another. He won’t love the progeny of another the way that he loves his own. He won’t make the sacrifices for the progeny of another the way he will for his own.”
Which is not only a lie, but insulting to the legions of great adoptive, foster, and step parents who lay down their lives every day for their kids.
And so what if you got in a bad marriage?
Buck up!
Pull up your big boy underpants and get one with life.
It’s a new day.
Hey!
My adopted daughter is a shrink(via the GI Bill)want her to come by and set you straight?