Not to worry. You aren’t the only one(s) who have figured it out.
Try not to blame women in general. After all: we were sold a bill of goods that started when I was little. That women should work and earn as much as men, that we can and should have career and family and let the ‘village’ raise our kids. That freedom of choice is a good thing.
So finding a good Christian ‘should’ mean that you find someone wise enough to ‘buck the trends’ and live by the proper code. Hang in there, James.