Women simply don't behave like that toward men they respect and trust. Change yourself and she will follow your lead. If she still refuses, simply "fire" her and find one who will. Don't get hung up on trying to force any one woman whose physical appearance you happen to like to be what you want - this is where men get into huge trouble.
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I agree, in part, with your second paragraph. There are loser women just like guys. No matter what you do, you are wasting your time. They are usually pretty obvious in exhibiting their loserdom.