Pay attention to your wife/girlfriends emotional needs. They are as real to her as your physical needs are to you. You ignore them/belittle them at your peril.
...zackly.
Here’s what I found in my 30+ years marriage to the same man: When we are “physically” close, he is more attentive to my emotional needs and when we are “emotionally” close, I am more in tune with his physical needs. It’s a vicious cycle.
Exactly....and the cycle is self-perpetuating in EITHER DIRECTION. When a man ignores her emotional needs, she is likely to ignore his physical needs.
Pay attention Bear. You might just learn something.
I don't think either side should ignore the other's needs, but there also needs to be some understanding when the differences emerge.
Men need to understand that she may not ALWAYS be in the mood...she doesn't exist to service you. At the same time, women need to realize that he doesn't ALWAYS want to share feelings or thoughts...he does not exist to be your sounding board or confessor. If your partner is not ready to meet you needs from time to time, it doesn't mean they no longer love you.
If they are constantly indifferent to your needs, then you have a problem. A headache every night of the month, or refusal to discuss anything beyond work and ESPN, is a legitimate reason to end a relationship.