Then ask him again if he ever thought that perhaps he thought you might be disappointed by the fact he was “different.”
School shouldn’t be traumatic.
I have thought for a long time that a study should be done of those diagnosed children who still remember being separated apart from their “peer” group by being singled out this way.
Check the forums I just posted....
Lots of folks there who were ADHD kids who are now adults. I’ll tell you that most I know felt their lives got better they day they were diagnosed.
My son, now 18, is pretty well adjusted. If anything we’ve had to fight the notion that he thinks he’s above average. Although, truth is, he is in many ways. Just not academically.
He never felt singled out. Never felt bad because he was “different.” The most he ever had to do at school was (for a couple of years only) go to the school nurse after lunch for his medicine. As I said up thread, we stopped that when he hit puberty because it was no longer working.
We then did back flips working with him and the school to stay on top of his school work. Sometimes we were successful. Sometimes not.
But school was never traumatic for him.
He can’t fit into your study, because he can’t fit into your box. Which, at the end of the day, is the whole point here.