School is for learning. It’s not to leave a child who is not learning - can’t learn because the parent wants to leave the responsibility of a DNR to someone else. The school personnel are the ones who will have to face looking at that child while she dies. The parent should have that child at home and look at that child while she chokes to death if they don’t want a DNR. Not saying they shouldn’t have one if they feel it is right, but they shouldn’t turn that responsibility over to someone else to burden them. School is for learning. Not babysitting although that does go on.
I understand that you don’t like the directive being ‘forced’ upon teachers and staff, even if it is a special needs school.
But it is not being forced upon you. It isn’t your place to decide for the staff what they should have to withstand. I’m sure anyone who objects is free to request another assignment or leave.