Was it? I think I was too over-protective of my kids, finally had to practice tough love.
Gun laws sure haven't treated your son fairly have they.
I don't know; overall, not. He can't have a felony on his record and keep doing what he is doing. He was at a swanky country club and a regular from a wealthy family started stalking him and calling him white trash because of his tattoos. He now wishes he didn't get them because it is not good for his business. I think his motive was low self esteem and to impress the girls. I'm not into that but well I just met one of the nicest freepers yet who has them. I have learned not to be too judgemental of people, how I judge will be judged on me in the end if it is that way. Anyway, the guy wouldn't leave him alone, and he lost it, got him down and beat the hell out of him, they had to pull him off. The club regulars cheered him on because the guy is supposedly an obnoxious snob, said he's had it coming for a long time, and also a state wrestling champion. Anyway, he got felony assault charges against him for that, and he was really shaken because he knew he could have killed the guy. It got pled down to a misdemeanor, he lost one of his best companies, paid a $5,000 fine. I told him he should have just gotten the hell out of there. It wasn't worth it. So maybe it is better he doesn't have a gun. His wife was a beautiful blonde, but is very high strung. I don't know if the laws have treated him fairly or not. Life just sucks sometimes, and I blame him for some of it but not all.
Anyone who thinks that the police can actually solve problems is not someone I'd want to hang around with - it has nothing to do with your income or social status. I prefer my friends to be more of the self sufficient mindset.
You don't know how much I would want to be more self sufficient. To protect myself, I shouldn't tell more about my situation. The best I can do at this point in my life is do everything I can for myself, things a lot of women my age wouldn't dream of doing. I was dreading going out with the snowblower this morning because it hadn't been used yet this season. I would have screwed up bigtime because between the lawn mower, tiller, and snowblower, I have to keep track of what fuel to put in it. I would have put straight gas in it, so that was a double blessing. Sometimes I do my own snowblowing, but it is hard for me to get back up 5 steps. That's enough in that vein.
Trust the police? I've always gotten along with them but my general attitude is not to get them involved unless I have to. I've had enough experience with them because of things others have done. My daughter got broken into, hot, screen cut, was waked up out of a sound sleep by a thug, and a family heirloom wedding ring stolen off her finger. I thank God he didn't rape or kill her, could have happened. She had to id him, and he went away for 25 but will probably get out sooner, may already be out. Luckily she has moved and changed her name. The ring had initials carved in it, so I told the police that is how they could id it. The police found it in a crack house and gave it back after they were done with it for evidence. They could have kept it. They were really nice to me when I got my purse stolen, my stuff was turning up all over town, got a lot of it back.
But there is another side of it. Better not go there. I wonder about some things.
I've been there too. Matter of fact I demanded the police arrest my 18 yr old daughter after 60 grand in rehabs & her stealing from us & everyone she could. I had to threaten the police I would go the the newspaper just to get them to go get her on warrants she already had. Why did I do this to her people may ask? Well it was to save her life because dope was killing her. Nothing worked so yes I did what was IMHO the only thing left ..jail. I got a lot of BS over it but the fact is she is sober , straight & has a beautiful home, husband & 2 yr old. She knows if I hadn't made the choice I did she would be in the ground. Dope was not the drug of choice when I was younger so I didn't have a clue of the signs until I saw the needle marks. She was sneaky & smart & I truly was stupid. Her grades were great, she was in gifted & talented classes. Then boom she was an addict. We all went through hell. We thought what did we do that was wrong. It wasn't us, it was peer pressure & my daughter going along with her friends. And making the choice to stick a needle in her arm. She doesn't like talking about it but I still have questions as to why she was so dumb. Most of that group are dead now. Thankfully she is alive & I thank God each day for that.
I've lived poor & I've lived rich. Now I live comfortably. I've been stalked by an ex boyfriend & it was hell. The law did nothing for me. But I didn't give into fear. I got a gun & in my state that gun was illegal at that time & now its long gone. But I can remember well the fear I had & the nightmares of those days still come & go.
I am married to a hardcore biker who is one of the best men I know. He came into my life when I had 5 teens & he made them straighten up. He is a wonderful daddy to our 8 yr old daughter too. People look at him & can have their own opinions. I really don't care. What I do find very funny is that in my upper middle class neighborhood everyone loves my husband. The bus stop moms bake cookies for him. The guys all want to talk bikes with him . My neighbors feel safer that he lives here . I have tattoos & I could give a hoot who likes me or dislikes me because of them. Its what is inside of a person that counts, not the outside. I do however wish I didn't have some of them . But I was young & dumb, you live & you learn..
I have a few friends who have had mental issues. He11 I've had to have had them in my life too but I just don't know how to have a breakdown. I've always been too busy. I'm very proud to list you as one of my friends. Hugs ~Pandy~