I can only imagine how hard that must be, missanne. You're right about the hospitalization part tho - have the meds improved that much? In my experience (I used to be a nurse) it always seemed that once people get back on them and get to feeling better, they go off them again because of the side effects. (Maybe that's just because I didn't see the people that took their meds and tolerated them well - they didn't keep coming back to the hospital.)
P.S. I hope you didn't think I was being callous - didn't mean to be.
The wonderful healthcare we have today is making it increasingly difficult for people with mental health problems of any type to get the care that they need and it is making it very difficult (if not dangerous) for the families involved.