That's interesting and offers a bit of hope... can you post more about this?
I read Wilfrid Sheed's memoir about his parents, Frank and Maisie (his parents were the publishers Frank Sheed and Maisie Ward) and the father, Frank was like that. His dad (that would be Wilfrid's granddad) was a mean drunk, improvident, foul-mouthed, and physically violent --- and somehow his son Frank turned out to be a truly loving and lovable man, and an outstandingly good father to his own children.
A miracle of grace, I guess you could say. I'd like to understand more how that works.
I’ve read several studies on this subject, but don’t really have the details available.
I made my original post on the issue because I get so tired of the common assumption that any child who goes through a really rough time is doomed to a miserable life as a result.
Quite a few children appear to be almost unaffected, and probably most of the rest come out of it eventually. I have known people of both types in my life.
I suspect genetics has a lot to do with how people react to these experiences. As with other challenges people face in life, the very worst thing you can do for them is convince them that their own attitude and efforts cannot make a difference.