The way I was raised (born in the 1950’s, not some whippersnapper) sex is a consensual act between 2 people. Take away the consent, and you do not have sex, you have something else, namely, rape.
I wonder if you could provide any links to the criminologists you have read suggesting that rapists are the most psychologically normal in the prison population. By whose definition of psychologically normal?
If a man must use violence (as you say) as a means to get his rocks off, I’m just not seeing a psychologically normal human being. But that’s just me. Psychologically normal men ask a woman out for a date, and maybe that night, maybe down the road, they together choose to have sex. Again. that’s just me.
No, that’s not just you. That is what is right, and thankfully that is also the law.
Strange to see people here take an almost Taliban-like view to rape and marriage. Bizarre.