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I said: “....she should have known not to turn her back on him when he is stressed.”

This is rather scary. You’re saying the adult should know better?

Yeah, the ADULT should know better. She was supposed to be managing the classroom, not he other way around.

Then who is responsible for the safety of the children in the classroom, cafeteria, or on the playground?

The ADULT that is managing that area.

Does every child in the school have to be taught to recognize when these special needs children are stressed....and not to turn their backs on them?

No, but the ADULTS that are working there should be able to handle it. I have worked (as a volunteer) with Autistic children at my son's school. I can handle 8 autistic children, and keep them from getting violent all by my self. If one starts to show signs of being over stimulated, I call for backup and go into one on one with the child who is in difficulty. It's all in the training and this teacher's aide either had that training, or some ADULT messed up by letting her work at the school. THIS IS NOT AND CANNOT BE THE SIX YEAR OLD CHILD'S FAULT HE IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE RESPONSIBLE.

I have two grown children who are considered “normal.” That’s difficult enough to raise “normal” with all the hopes and dreams a parent has for a child to grow to be responsible adults in society. And, of course, a parent will always be concerned for the safety of their child.

Great, go and play with the kids, the adults should be in charge.

Believe me, my heart goes out to you and to parents of children with special needs. That has to be one tough road! I do wish the best for you and your child.

Thank you, for your sentiment, but you are also displaying the attitude that is both ignorant and injurious to my child, so please listen to what I am saying. Leave the judgment of this situation to those who understand autism, and worry only about any safety issues that actually materialize with your own children.

But I still believe special needs children should not be thrown in with other children. To me, it’s saying to the child, “Sink or swim...I wan’t you to be normal.” And they can’t handle it. I don’t think it’s fair for them, and it’s especially not fair to the other children who are in school to learn! The other children (and parents) should not have to fear for their safety because they can’t turn their backs on a “special” child.

There is an old quote, it is better to remain silent and have other think you are ignorant than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

It's never sink or swim, it is educational. If my son spends recess with your child, is he missing anything? If an ADULT who is monitoring the situation makes sure that your Billy is safe by removing my son for acting out at the first sign of "trouble", is he in danger? (just in case you don't know, the answer is NO, this lady messed up) IS it good for my son, YES how in the name of mike do you expect a kid who is at the top of his "Special Ed" class to progress when everyone he sees in the classroom has worse skills than him, and if he is the best they can see will they ever be able to live in society? What you are advocating here is throwing away people because they are not perfect.

I am going to draw an analogy here and you will not like it. Hitler killed "defectives" so they would not use resources needed for the motherland. I may be over reacting, but I hear echoes in your comments. And I apologize for any offense my analogy has caused.

I met the family of the child I described in my post. They are wonderful! In fact, the mom was a good friend of my daughter’s. When my daughter told me they were moving this year, my thoughts were, “How sad...she’s losing a fun-loving friend, but at least my grandson’s class won’t be disrupted every single day.”

At least you are consistently selfish.

Also, your child should not be watching cartoons. Yes, they are violent! 30 years ago several of us parents and concerned teachers did a study and found that small children do not discriminate between cartoon characters and humans in an act of violence...smashing each other on the head with a bat...getting flattened by a car, a rolling rock, etc. They see the cartoon character getting up from the accident without a scratch. They associate this with a human.

Thanks for the tip, read my other posts, I'm way way ahead of you on this.

Of course, we wrote to the TV channels, to no avail. In fact, I see there are more violent cartoons and programs now than ever. And what makes me shudder is that most people in America think it’s horrible that nudity is shown. We should be more concerned with violence....on TV, in movies, and in video games.

I welcome you to a crusade against violence, you might know what you area talking about there, and I'll support your efforts there.

“Yeah, the ADULT should know better. She was supposed to be managing the classroom, not he other way around.”

The very purpose of my comment referring to that was “What about the children?” Who’s responsible for THEIR safety when they turn their backs on a child like this?

Sheesh!

“There is an old quote, it is better to remain silent and have other think you are ignorant than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.”

You’re absolutely right. You should remain silent. Your post has left no doubt in my mind, and I don’t have time for your ignorance and rudeness.