“Why did she clean that toy? (phycologists say most parents wouldnt’ - because they want the smell of their child nearby)”
Yes...this is true.
We had people helping us out during a tough time when our daughter died, and I remember being very upset when I realized her sheets had been washed.
I didn’t want anything to be washed.
We had people helping us out during a tough time when our daughter died, and I remember being very upset when I realized her sheets had been washed.
I didn’t want anything to be washed.
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I still had my mother’s “cancer turbin” as I called it when she died. It smelled like her for a while.
I’m sorry about your daughter.
Thanks.
I am sorry to hear about your daughter.
You know, as a mother, that was one thing that jumped out at me too. I was just reading about this yesterday in a magazine and my immediate thought was ‘She WASHED the toy??? WHY??? It would have smelled like her daughter!’ I wouldn’t even need a psychologist to tell me that most mothers would instinctively want to keep that scent without even realizing it.
I have the sweater my dad wore to the hospital when he was admitted, right before he died. When we took his belongings home that day, my sister opened up the bag and burst into tears again, saying ‘It smells just like Dad.’ I haven’t washed the sweater and I don’t ever intend to. It’s his cologne, his scent, the smell I remember when I hugged him. Very powerful.