” is it your choice to be aroused?”
I stopped reading there. If arousal is purely choice, what’s with pedophiles being convicted because they showed arousal under controlled exposure to child porn?
As to your observation about pedophiles - no pedophile has ever been "convicted" because they were aroused under controlled conditions- its a diagnostic practice used to commit them through the sexual predator laws. Further; the term "choice" is a slippery one- especially when applied to bizarre sexual practices. Does one choose to have a foot fetish? I am not sure and I don't think anyone else is. That was the point of my comment.
Since sexual practices don't exist outside morality (unless one completely dismisses the concept of "age of consent" or consent entirely), its no excuse that a person may have urges which are unchosen. The questions is, and always shall be, which urges are the ones we will validate as normal.
Consequently, it doesn't matter if someone has an inborn desire for same sex contact as it doesn't matter if another person has an inborn desire for 3 year olds - it only matters what we decide is "normal." And on that matter I am going with 5000 years of history and normal biology instead of another failed social experimenting based on license.