Bitter enough to let it come out in an occasional rant, but what I learned from it was that obvious emotional stability is the one thing the father must not show to his children. I had my moment, fearful not violent, and when I saw the looks on their faces I knew I’d done wrong. They have not seen a negative emotional moment from me in 16 years since. Anger? Sometimes, but always tempered. Fear? Never. So, while I won’t excuse this event, I know the nature (but not the magnitude) of the stresses he is under. The only legal weapon he will ever have is to make KB show that child support money is spent on the child. My personal experience is that his attorneys won’t have much else. Since they both have high-cost, high-powered attorneys, her advantage with the court trumps all else.