Spare me the ethnic victimology. I've never thought of Asians as anything but hard-working, but hard work is not confined to one culture. We owned our own family business for years, and I'm no stranger to 12-hour days, manual labor, raising kids and making ends meet. My parents were poor hard-working immigrants with a child, my brother, who had severe learning difficulties and emotional/behaviorial problems, and they begged -- no crawled -- to get him help, and they did. He never went to college, but he's now a self-sufficient, financially comfortable adult. It took a long time, and a lot of sacrifice on my parents' part.
I made no mention of ethnicity, nor did I imply it, in my original comments -- those assumed insults are solely your projections.
My comments were made in response to the quotes from the grandparents that Cho's parents "could not afford" to get him help, and the contrast between that and what we know of their lifestyle. I would certainly consider it far more important, and responsible, to get a disturbed youngster professional help than to send him to college, and if the grandparents' comments are true, he did not get that help.
I don’t know that it’s victimology. I think it’s part of their worldview. I’m not as sure of Koreans, but for Chinese, their material status is more important than anything. We have Chinese friends who are keeping their son (1 year old) in China so they can stay here and work. They are not poor, but neither are they rich. Their son is already exhibiting poblems, but they will not bring him here before they earn what they consider enough money. These are good people and the husband is a college professor. But it is their worldview.