I certainly wasn't offended, sorry I came off that way. I just disagreed that two of the men accused had necessarily done anything wrong. They were at a party where there was drinking, but I can't get worked up about that. A stripper came and two of the guys left. Apparently, they didn't want to see her.
I don't want to upset you, and I clearly don't think having a few drinks is no big deal. If your son lives away at college, unless he's got religious reasons for not drinking, odds are pretty good, he and his friends are drinking. Not necessarily to excess, but drinking. Ask him if the parties he attends are usually centered around a keg. Most college parties are.
My son is at a service academy.