James, you usually set a higher standard than this...shame on you. These people are not advocating anything for anybody...they are resisting having what is the grandparent's problem become the neighborhood's problem.
No-win situations happen all the time; that's life. It's become increasingly popular for some to create them, then throw themselves upon the mercy of strangers.
It's not "about the child," and it's not "about the grandparents." It's about a neighborhood.
Covenants are a legally enforceable contract. We've all made commitments that we later regretted; it's not the fault of the person who signed the contract with us.
If you don't like HOAs, DON'T BUY A HOUSE IN ONE! And, if you do...don't try to rewrite the rules, retroactively. Three years is long enough; it's too long.
So might have said Supreme Justice Taney in 1856, Dred Scott v. Sandford! Well, then count me as a Republican, as the current Wikipedia entry says:
Democrats characterized Republicans as lawless rebels, provoking disunion by their unwillingness to accept the Supreme Court's decision as the law of the land.