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Hmmm, whoda thought that raising small children in herds might not be ideal?
Truthfully, I don't think there is much of a mystery here. Children in groups of like aged children HAVE to be more aggressive, louder, more insistent, etc, if they hope to get any attention or anything else.
When my boys were young, I noticed that I could very quickly tell which of their friends were day care babies simply by their behavior. It was almost fool proof. The loud/aggressive ones invariabley spent alot of time in day care.
I'm also not surprised that no one wants to hear this, as it's terribly inconvenient.
susie
How pathetic.
So, if we took Muslim children out of their daycare madrassas...
I had a discussion in the early 90's with a Christian psychologist about this very thing. It was in the context of kids/schools/crime. He essentially said that if we thought things were bad then (90's), wait until the daycare generation grew up. Terms used: psychopathic/anti-social behavior. Violence was assumed.
From the headline, I thought the article was going to be about attack rhododendrons.
Well, nothing a good thrashing won't fix.
If that is true, it seems putting a bunch of infant strangers together, all fighting for desperately-needed attention, would cause them to become aggressive in a dog-eat-dog kinda way.
Nothing wrong with aggressive pursuit of life on your own merit, but not if you have to stab others in the back to achieve things.
"The study also found, for example, that children in high-quality care were more articulate at the age of 10, with a bigger vocabulary."
yes. They have more than one way to tell you to go %**@ yourself.
7-7:30?
51 wks a yr?
And this is a "mystery?"
like I suspected - having a psych degree does not make a person very intelligent.
For starters, I was homeschooled and raised by a stay-at-home mom. Likewise, my wife's mom opted out of college to stay home and raise her children. I know the value of "mom and dad". I also know that daycare isn't a godless drop-a-tot hellhole that some here seem to think.
My wife and I both work and no, we do not live extravagantly, and no she isn't a career-focused fem-Nazi.
He gets the best care, and we are both active and involved in all daycare events. Furthermore, he is loved. Truly loved and knows it. Not with overcompensation and guilt but with feeling, structure and Christian parenting.
What I am trying to say is that yes, you can stay home and raise your kids all you want, that's fine, but there are other good people just like you who don't have that option at the moment.
Oh, and our "stay at home moms"? Both divorced and now fighting hard in a world after having had to take entry-level jobs in thier forties and struggling with health issues. Neither of their husbands thought it wise for them to get an education or build skills that would allow them to survive better in the autumn of their lives.
I would have traded all my growing up underfoot if it would have allowed mom to be better situated now.
I lived the feminist version of the idyllic childhood.
I was in daycare in 1955 until I could transfer to kindergarten, when that let out about noon, I would walk almost 2 miles to a parent-less house.
I was shocked when daycare started being pushed as a wonderful thing during the 70s.
Prof Belsky obviously hasn't read Lord of the Flies.
FYI - there is an article on this study in today's Wall Street Journal. Page B1.
We just had our first baby, and I thank a gracious God every day that He has so arranged our lives that we both work from home. There is just no way I'd be willing to drive into Dallas every day (25+ miles each way) and leave our precious child with some stranger. NO WAY. F--k that noise. Poverty would be far preferable. In fact, before we had Baby Chan, we decided that one of us was going to stay at home with him no matter what, even if we had to eat beans and cornbread every night. I like beans and cornbread myself.
I feel for those who say they "have no choice" but to put their children in day care. Single moms who have been dumped by their sperm-donor "fathers" are perhaps forgiven for doing so. However, anyone with an intact family or nearby parents who would choose to dump the kids with strangers just so they can have a five thousand square foot house or three cars is just gibbering, batshit nuts in my opinion.
Ask the average person if they'd leave their wallet or purse full of cash, credit cards, and ID with total stranger and they'll look at you as if you'd lost your mind. Yet the same people who wouldn't dream of trusting a stranger with their MONEY have no qualms about leaving their INNOCENT CHILDREN with a total stranger to do with as they please.
Nuts, I tell you.
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