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If I could persuade a loved one to seek professional or pastoral counseling before making such a risky leap -- I would take those steps. The best thing for your cuz is to bail out of this "commitment" and get some help for his smae-sex proclivities.

If YOU feel very strongly about your relative's sojourn into the committed form of this behavior pattern & "alternative lifestyle", perhaps a clear but dignified conveyance of your convictions before the fact would be appropriate??

Then he would understand if you do not attend the event.

This is not a "wedding" or a "marriage" - I would not take a guilt trip over either choice that you make.

In the final analysis--
If your presence at the event, and your gifts or good wishes would violate your spiritual convictions and moral conscience by condoning his lifestyle choice---

Be faithful to your own conscience & principles-- politely...

Regards

I would not take a guilt trip over either choice that you make.

I definitely agree with that.

Whichever choice is made, make it, stick by it, don't waffle on it and don't apologize for it.

While you are responsible for a certain amount of consideration of their feelings, they are responsible for a certain amount of consideration for yours.

I'd also say that speaking to other members of your family about how they plan to address the situation might be helpful.