Frankly, I'm surprised by the number of people who suggest not attending the wedding but giving an expensive gift instead. I cannot imagine a person gay/straight/asexual/whatever who would be anything but saddened by this. A wedding is a beautiful day you wish to share with your loved ones - sending a gift because you are too uncomfortable or hung-up to attend in person seems like a bribe or repudiation.
Something I try to think of in this sort of situation is how many similarities there are in the debates on gay marriage and the debates over interracial marriage fifty years ago. "Unnatural?" Yup, that word has been used to describe both. "Depraved?" Check. There were even people who twisted religion to show that the "races should not mix." Of course, there are still people who think interracial marriage is wrong - Would all of you give the same advice to someone who felt that way? Would your grandmother or grandfather?
I know that not-so-long-ago, interracial marriages were a hot button issue....kinda like gay marriage is today......but there are differences in the arguments. You might say that the arguments are silly - but I would say they are significant.
I don't have to "twist" religion to justify opposing gay marriage....like my Grandfather had to do to condemn inter-racial marriage.
I am going to the ceremony. I am not endorsing it. Sometimes this feels like a contradiction - but People there will know my position. I am doing my best.
Maybe you did register here today to post your comment to this one topic - perhaps you will comment on some other topics also.