[gidget7]

No. I would make it clear and in as loving a way as possible, that I did not support what he was doing in his life. Much as I would someone who was committing adultery. I would also make it clear that approval and love were not the same thing, and that I indeed did love him very much, but cannot support these decisions.

I was put in a situation where I was called upon by a cousin to attend a bridal shower for her, during a pregnancy where she intentionally became pregnant with no intention of marrying the father. I love the child, and welcomed it, as it wasn't the childs fault, I could not condone her actions in having it out of wedlock.

[Toni99]

Frankly, I'm surprised by the number of people who suggest not attending the wedding but giving an expensive gift instead. I cannot imagine a person gay/straight/asexual/whatever who would be anything but saddened by this. A wedding is a beautiful day you wish to share with your loved ones - sending a gift because you are too uncomfortable or hung-up to attend in person seems like a bribe or repudiation.

Something I try to think of in this sort of situation is how many similarities there are in the debates on gay marriage and the debates over interracial marriage fifty years ago. "Unnatural?" Yup, that word has been used to describe both. "Depraved?" Check. There were even people who twisted religion to show that the "races should not mix." Of course, there are still people who think interracial marriage is wrong - Would all of you give the same advice to someone who felt that way? Would your grandmother or grandfather?

[DBeers]

No -I do not promote delusion.

[philetus]

A gay family member wouldn’t want to come to my home.

[stephenjohnbanker]

Do what you think is right, and don’t ask us. Best advice I can give.

[Vicki]

I would go. Under dire circumstances I choose to no longer see or communicate with most of my family and it very difficult and I miss them as I once knew them. A circumstance such as yours is not worth losing a family member.

[Thumper1960]

Family is important. Love and friendship of family transcends most all. You would be there for your cousin. Never allow the turmoil caused by lifeless political issue control the essence of the family.

[budwiesest]

Respectfully decline

Send them a fruitcake.

[TomasUSMC]

EN OH
NO

[swatbuznik]

My former best friend from high school first wedding was a “clown wedding” and I was the best man, dressed up a The Joker. It was...strange. I felt awkward enough about that. When that marriage fell apart and finally realized he was gay, he invited me to that “wedding” and I told him I could not. It would be against my moral views. He said he understood, but we have not spoken to each other in any fashion since then. I can’t say that I would want a reconnect. Sometimes, bridges just have to be burned. Sorry.

[soccermom]

I had that situation with my sister — I sent a gift but didn’t attend the ceremony.