I'm a woman and I am not a stepmother, but I find it interesting that everybody assumes the husband and stepmom are in the wrong in these cases.
That's because the story references the Giuliani situation.
But the article was not about Rudy and Judi. It was about a lot of different stepmothers. The remarks tht have been made on this thread were not just about Giuliani's marriages.
What would you say to an adult who is upset that his father remarries years after the death or divorce of his spouse? I have seen grown children who are resentful even when Dad was widowed and is terribly lonely, or when Dad was the innocent party in the divorce. In many cases I think money is a large part of the resentment: "How dare that usurper reduce the size of my inheritance?"