"i totally agree. how many people do you see ragging on ex-spouses on FR, and how many are willing to take responsibility for having CHOSEN to marry them? there's no way that there are that many jekel/hyde transformations going on. abuse situations, clearly, are different. but screwing around, heck, you should be certain of someone's character before you marry them, it's only common sense."
Do you lend out your crystal ball that tells you exactly what somebody will be like 20 years from now?
no, but waiting til you are old enough to know if you are wet or dry is step in the right direction. also, you have to really be interested in finding stuff like this out and looking for signs of it, and if you see divorce as a back door out then you aren't going to be looking as deep. you have to know that you will live with the consequences of your choice in order to really take it seriously. not everyone does that. and unfortunately, for some, it's just all about the sex and when that is good and steady coming then all is right with the world, but then they realize down the road they never gave a thought to character, and character WILL out eventually.