I am not raging, just stating the fact I think that it is very selfish for an adult child to say that, particularly over a widowed parent.
I have stepgrandkids (I'm the only grandma they ever knew, their REAL one committed suicide long before they were born),and they were 4, eight, and 14 when their father died with leukemia.
I am taking care of their sick Grandpa now. When their Dad died the oldest asked me "Grandma, if something ever happened to Grandpa would you still be our grandma? Where would you live? You'll have to come and live with us so we could take care of you." I have no birth children, but have been married to their grandpa for 20 years, and adore my grandchildren.
There's always two sides to every story.
It is a good thing your children have both parents and a stable home. I wish all families could be like that. But often that is not the way it is.
I think Jesus taught a few things about being judgemental. Remember Mary Magdeline?
the lack of judgmentalism has led to a values-free society where no one is right and no one is wrong and we are seeing the fruits of that every day. there are going to be divorces that are warranted, but far too many result from selfish parents who are more interested in their own fulfillment than in their children's welfare. your situation is very different. my kids see their friends dealing with divorced parents dating and dragging a parade of different partners through their lives and are horrified by it. that is THEIR perspective.