Well I cant point you to any specific places.
Some of it was here on FR. Some of it I learned from a friend who is a forensic phsycologist and works with sexually abused children and their preditors.
The next time I run into him, Ill ask for some conclusive evidence for you. Its a real concern for him that those in the profession would even conceive of such ideas.
The family member is a she, not a he AND we are very close. its been 15 years since she recovered.
she has also had battles with alchohol and while she would never tell anyone else in the family that she still drinks and LIKES to drink, she tells me.
I know if she still wishes or was still engaged in the homosexual life style she would tell me. you are making assumptions, based on what?
She has nothing to hide from me, no reason to keep secrets. We have talked many times about her past, and nothing indicates that she did it for religious reasons or family pressure.
I dont know what more I can tell you. You can believe what you wish, but I wont participate in a belief that will lead us to even more perversion and the acceptance of abnormal as normal.